Disclaimer: This is a sincere dedication to all those invites gone wrong.
So you meet some friend’s friend (& family) visiting your town at some get together. You are meeting them for the first time in your life. You feel nice talking to them.
Nice people, you think.
You then think maybe you must call them over home sometime. I mean you are not a people hater. You like socializing with all its pros and cons.
So in your head you say: Wow! Nice people. I actually have something to talk to them about, more than just the weather and traffic! It would be nice to have them over. I could put together a few quickies and we could all munch on and blabber while the kids can be in theirs world of pushing and pulling.
You clear your throat to put these thoughts in your head into words.
The conversation goes like this:
You: ‘How long will you be in Bangalore?’
Friend: ‘A month or so..’
You: ‘Oh that’s enough time. You must come over to our place sometime.’
You should have stopped there. But you didn’t.
You: ‘You should call us and then just drop in.’
You: ‘Even if you intend to come during weekdays. Just call us and come over.’
You: ‘You can even come on weekends. Just call and come.’
Friend: ‘OKAY. Got it. We will call you IF and WHEN we come. Don’t worry, we will NOT surprise you.’
Oops. That’s is obviously not what you meant.
You have an option to just leave it there BUT all the crisis management skills come together in your head and say c’mon clear this mess.
So you continue messing it up further.
You: ‘Oh no that’s not what I meant. I mean you are here only for a month and am sure you have plenty of relatives and friends to visit and we may not be your priority, So I mean just make time whenever you can and don’t bother if it will be inconvenient on a weekday as well.’
Clearly they wouldn’t have thought of a weekday visit as inconvenient until this point. And then you get that narrow eyed stare from your partner which says ‘Don’t you utter a word more.’
And I close my case here My Lord – utterly disappointed with my social skills.
Henceforth, maybe I should just get off with a ‘It was nice talking to you.’